There is always a back side to every coin… a dark one to every story. Being happy does not mean being blind and oblivious to everything else. On the contrary, it should mean quite the opposite, seeing that all emotions – whatever they may be – are amplified at least ten folds. Energies go up and down, washing away or just stricking with unexpected force… one is not always ready to take any of them on, whether they be good or bad. Nobody taught us how to do such a thing after all, so we kind of have to figure it out as we go along.
Stand still, move forward or backwards… this is a choice that we do not necessarily know how to handle. Some even get to go round and round like a caroussel, afraid to leave the tracks they have long dug into their lives. Influences that are dragging the weak-hearted of the moment, the blind and the stubborn… their feet moving according to the same rhythm, to the sound of the same music, almost like one heart beat, thus building a cloud of dust and discord above them… then all around… spreading what should not be in the first place.
Feelings… uncontrollable pulls, one way or the other… and the loving one is getting all this mixed up with the routines and delights of its own heart… its tempo losing its softness and edge… therefore channeling what should not be there, fighting of the hubbub that it has not control over.
Sartre used to say: “L’enfer c’est les autres” – “Hell is the others”. Interesting idea and probably true, yet it is only one side of the coin… or is it?
Sure we do influence one another in good or ill… it might even be a challenge to coexist at home or at work… yet, what would we be without one another? What chance would we have to learn and teach? What would really be the chance for us to be this creature capable of so much love and compassion?
Not everybody is cut out to be and bear the presence of others all the time; there is, however, no way that such persons could make it through life without the others. But maybe… and just maybe, I am over-optimistic. It is true that we are capable of the “most noble things” (as the charater of Gabriel says to John Constantine in the film Constantine)… on the other hand, we are capable of such horrors and we do not need help for that.
Man is good at justifying its mischiefs – by putting the blame on something/someone else, no name calling here – but when it comes to love, then it is just human nature.
The thing is… without the others we would simply not be.